The importance of self-love in a relationship

"If you don't love yourself, you'll always be chasing after people who don't love you either."

Relationships can be the most meaningful thing in peoples lives and a good relationship is something you need to work at to get.

But for those of us who struggle with accepting ourselves, we need to ask ourselves - if we cant, how can we expect others to do so?

What happens is that you begin to become dependent on your partners love. Your lack of self-worth results in you trying to compensate for that in the love that they are giving you. This ultimately will result in problems. It isn't healthy to hold on to the love from someone else whilst not actually having any for yourself.

"We accept the love we think we deserve."

The way you treat yourself shows others how you expect to be treated.

If we think lowly of ourselves we will resort to someone who will treat us badly. If we think highly of ourselves we will wait for someone who will put us on that pedestal.

The way we are dealt with is managed without anyone else. If you don't think you should be dealt with the way you are, the main thing keeping you from leaving is yourself. The genuine power for change is you. We're dismal when we think we have the right to be miserable. We're irate when we think we have the right to be furious. So why don't we love, when we think we have the right to be loved?

It comes down to this. If you feel comfortable with yourself and begin to love your quirks and flaws, this will ultimately reflect on the relationships with those around you. Once you realize that the relationship with yourself is most important, then the rest will fall into place.

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